its easy to figure out. 1. most people want to come to america because it's the best country in the world, and russian women are no exception. 2. america is getting selective in term of visa issuance and for russian women marriage is just about the only way to get here. 3. american men marrying these women are generally losers who can't get themselves american brides or overbearing, patronizing bastards who think that russian women will honor and obey them, just like asian women did in the past. 4. there is no soul mating possible between these individuals: they're just too different for that and oftentimes don't even speak each other's language. 5. little wonder most of these marriages fall apart and the women have to go back to russia simply because they have no legal leg to stand on (those who endure till green card, or whatever other legal documentation is required for permanent residency, stay and go off to marry for love).

Nicely put

tak chto delat klevim Russian woman? :) gde vihod?

it's hard, to be sure. i mean i understand most people want to live here, but if you don't have solid documentation, what are you gonna do? i have no answer to this question. i am american, so i am set, and taking care of others is no business of mine. i just offered my observations, not resolutions.

А что делать таким заумным и занудным Dervishам в США???Много больше пользы ты в Израиле принес бы!!!

T.e ti vishla za adekvatnogo amerikanta?:) reshila svoyu problemy, ya ponimayu. I vse taki chto bi ti posovetovala drygim zhenschinam? Oni tozhe hotyat i vpolne zasluzhivayut luchshey zhizni, ne tak li?

То что хотят-Да. А вот заслуживают ли-ето Вопрос.

i never married an american guy, are you kidding me or what? my hubby is russian just like me.it's just that i came here when things were different, like 20 years ago or more. we were granted a refugee status first, then green card, and then after five years, citizenship. guess i was fortunate in a sense that i didn't have to sacrifice anything to get here. regarding advice to other gals, well, i really don't know what to say. i guess they should look into the guy before they marry, or just accept the fact that they're gonna be miserable for sometime, until they get their status. really hard for me to say: never been through it myself. can't really imagine living with a guy who i don't even have a common language with.

Well, you are not a tipical russian woman, i guess:)

dervish, maybe not, i don't know what typical russian woman means anyway. :)

Hey RU? is soul mating possible if both do speak the same language, let's say English? Or you think we're too different? I'm not talking about mail-brides or marriage-as -a -form -of -transportation cases, I'm talking about a possibility of a relationship bethween a russian(easter-european) woman and an american man. You don't seem to think it's a good idea in general.

At least she speaks russian :)

i can tell you guys the story i read in the chicago tribune a while ago. it was actually a letter from an american guy who had married a russian woman. so he says that woman was everything he'd dreamed about in a woman before the marriage and nothing after. soon after the marriage, she got counsel from other russian gals in the area and learned to call the police on him with solid regularity. then she took him to court for domestic violence (even though the guy swears he never laid a hand on her), and won a hefty settlement. as a result, the guy was left high and dry and the woman ran off with his money and american residency. lots of fun:)

Koshka, I guess its possible in theory because some marriages do work out, but from i hear the overwhelming majority doesn't. its just statistical evidence. and i personally knew an american woman who married a russian man, too, and sounded very happy and content. i don't know what the guy's motives were, though:)

Russian woman, "from WHAT I hear..." :)

Оценку ешё ей поставь-умник хренов.
How about this "Go fouk your self, moron" here, try to find a typo in this sentence.

I found 3 typos i 2 sentences.

and 1 typo in my sentence :)

Деда, ты ето или не ты? :) великий и могучий русский язык :Д :)

...или английский...

anonimchik nashel opushenie, rebatki, davaite pozdravim ego/ee:) anonymous, mi vas pozdravlaem. a nashchet ostalonogo kak? tozhe tak moshete?:)

a kakoy fil'm?

I married an American guy. The relationship is working. We both are happy. May be the reason is that I didn't marry him for papers. I could have met a guy anywhere in the world, but it happened to be here. I guess it's just the stereotype that lives among us. Not every marriage falls through.

Honey, love in general is the biggest stereotype ever.............so as life.

obidno, kogda tebya podgonyayut pod stereotype, vot i vse. Hotya, my vsen navernoe schitaem sebya v toi ili inoi stepeni isklyucheniyami.

А ты не обижайся. Ты ж знаеш что ты не такая? Ну вот и всё, живи себе спокойно.
Хотя какая ето жизнь......................с американцем. :-D

a kakaya raznitsa, Amerikantsy tozhe raznye est, kak i Russkie tozhe...