Just disappointed.
After a long observation, I have come to the conclusion that the people here on the Russian forum are a very complicated crowd. On more then one occasion I have been watching certain people and their behavior toward others. Particularly the number of entries that are constantly taking an aggressive stand and making rude remarks. I have decided not to mention their names. My intention is not to point fingers, but rather explain that it is not the way you should to communicate with people, even if you disagree with them. I understand that everyone has the right to say how he or she feels. We all have our personal beliefs that we often like to share with others. In my opinion, every belief, is a view or opinion that is not always founded on proof or certainty.
There are a lot of interesting topics on this forum, and many participants who like to share their view on certain topics. I always liked to have this discussions whenever I have a free time. People have concerns, questions, and sometimes they like to talk about nothing. As much as I like to participate in some of the topics, I often end up having a bad taste in my mouth. I get the feeling that some people cannot pass on certain statements or comments by others, or they do not agree with or are simply annoyed by something that is not so insignificant. Some people just will not let go and they prefer to spoil topics by insulting others. All of a sudden they start to nit pick, and look for fault, wheather it is their weakness in grammar, or political unawareness, or simply style of writing, such as not using a Cyrillic font…
That is why I have decided to write this letter in English, so that no body could accuse me of improper grammar. Like every body else I have my strength and weaknesses. Not being able to write grammatically correct in Russian without use of spell-check, that by the way I don’t have, does not mean that I am uneducated. I am simply out of practice, and as I mentioned before most of the time I speak and write English. People constantly reminding me about my weakness are probably not happy with themselves, so to raise their self-esteem they make negative and derogatory remarks.
Interestingly enough, being on other forums where majority of participants are Americans, you don’t see this type of aggression or abusive behavior. My point is that we should be a little bit more patient and let the anger go. Life is too short. By focusing on negative feelings and brining others down you miss out on what’s really important, the interaction with your peers. You can also miss out on the possibility of finding someone with like or relevant interests.
I know who I am, and I know where I stand. I NEVER HAD, NOR WILL I hurt anyone intentionally. I have many goals in life, and one of them was to find friends. True friends are people who have open minds, are supportive, and like to have a good time.
I want to thank this forum for giving us opportunity to meet people and make friends. My friends respect my opinion and that is what it is all about. They don’t have to agree with me on every aspect, but as long as they respect my opinion we will remain friends.
I am a decent person, with a lot of good qualities and values. I don’t appreciate when some individuals without knowing me personally give me bad name. I am sure that people who I am talking about are just being irrational, and hopefully they will take a look at themselves and be open to positive change. Saying all that I will keep my door open, and if I find some doors closed to me, than so be it.
Sincerely Hula Girl. :-) |
